In the hustle and bustle of today’s world, its easy to become lost among the names and faces of those you pass by. You can chose to be as visible or as invisible as you want with cellphones and text messages, message boards and social network applications. When you take down the technological shield and meet someone face to face, how do you even know who you’re really talking to?
Single life in the big city, or any city for that matter, can be quite a challenge. It’s no longer a story of boy meets girl. In our age of technology, boy virtually winks at girl. then boy sends a virtual flirt. girl acknowledges sentiment and flirts back. Emails go back and forth through cyberspace until finally the exchange of phone numbers takes place. Instead of a personal phone call, however, boy sends girl a text. And so the technological pursuit continues…..
Old pictures are scanned. more recent pictures are touched up, taking off a few pounds, wrinkles and gray hairs. Let’s not forget the infamous picture in front of the mirror with cellphone in hand. Say ‘cheese’.
After all the technological avenues are exhausted, what do you do next? No more hiding behind your computer screen or your cellphone applications… The time has come to meet face-to-face and this is where technology takes a back-seat.
Warning: Objects may be larger than they appear…. or was that ‘closer’ than they appear. Guess that only pertains to side-view mirrors and a tyrannosaurus rex hot on your tail. It’s no longer a WYSIWYG world and ‘what you see’ in a scanned photo, is definitely not ‘what you get’….
First date meetings seem to go hand in hand with coffee. Walk into any local coffee shop and chances are you will be witnessing a first time meeting. Disappointment hangs heavily in the air….
- Are you really 5’11”? Hmmm, maybe with shoe lifts….
- WHP (weight-height proportionate)? Sorry, but this does not refer to the animal kingdom measurement scale….
- Oh, you look so much ‘younger’ in your college graduation picture….
The list goes on and on…. and it’s not just the women who commit this faux pas. Men also blur those lines between fact and fiction. You want to put forward your best appearances. However when you start digging out those old photos from your shoebox in the far corner of the closet because you know you look absolutely stunning, aren’t you not only setting yourself up for disappointment but the person you’re meeting as well.
We are told that beauty comes from within…. yet, we are so consumed with the perfect dress, the perfect suit, the perfect color that accentuates your curves or brings out the color in your eyes. What’s a person to do?
Growing up as a kid, little slogans and feel good messages get tossed your way through schools, activity groups and kids television programming. One that may sit in the far crevices of your mind is ‘be proud of who you are, be yourself’. Apparently you do learn more in kindergarten than your primary colors. So, after all these years, some words of wisdom finally come back to bite you in the…. uh, er… finally shine down upon you.
Be confident of who you are and stop hiding behind those 15 year old fuzzy, out-of-date pictures. Update your photos. If you must use a camera phone, have a friend do the honors. No one really wants to see a picture of you in the bathroom anyways.
As you sit across from this person over a cup of coffee, you begin to realize just how much you don’t like coffee to begin with. You think back to the past few weeks and start to wonder why you agreed to meet this person in the first place. every bit of communication up to this point has been so dry and impersonal. What happened to those days of looking across a crowded room, noticing that beautiful smile or those gorgeous dimples.
Personal interaction has withered away almost to the point of extinction. We no longer know how to communicate unless we are in front of a computer or limiting our messages to 160 characters or less. You take a deep breath, power off that computer, leave your cellphone at home and take a look at the beauty of life around you. The little girl on the swing, laughing as her dad pushes her higher. the elderly couple walking hand-in-hand. the little boy running as his new puppy (& best friend) tackles him in the grass.
As you stop and take in a deep breath, you think back to when life was not so complicated with technology. To when a date was actually a real date and not an invitation to chat. You think of the person you left sitting in the coffee shop and realize that all these new types of dating (online sites, speed-dating, compatibility questionaires) are not worth all the hype surrounding them.
You smile to yourself, knowing that while technology is great, there’s nothing wrong with being a little old-fashioned.